The office bitch...

And it's not me! Every morning when I come into work, I walk around the building and greet the people I work with. While we don't really socialise outside of the office, we all get on really well when we do. I've been here for 10 1/2 years and I think I'm generally pretty friendly and always polite. I'd rather bite my tongue than make anyone unhappy.

Most of you will know that I work in an office with only men and I have always thought we all had a pretty good working relationship with one another. I have always enjoyed not having to deal with the bitchiness that goes along with working with other women, men are so much easier to understand and always direct. But it turns out that men can be pretty petty too and that we do have an office bitch lurking around here anyway. And he's ignoring me.

Since I've met my dream guy, I've been given the total cold shoulder by our office bitch. In the beginning I thought it was quite funny when he used to blank my greetings, but it's really getting to me now. Regardless of how he feels about me, common courtesy dictates that a greeting should be answered. This office freak sits right next to the front door and when I walk in and say good morning, he does not greet me. He can be in his office on his own, nobody else in sight and he will not say hello. He even leaves notes on my desk for me when he needs to ask me to do something for him. He doesn't tell me where he's going or when he'll be back (which is an issue for the rest of the staff). He doesn't even ask me to buzz the gate for him any more. It's all so, so childish, I can't believe I'm even writing about it, but I am irritated by his rudeness, which I guess is his point and I'm not taking the bait.

My only faults in my acquaintance with this colleague is that I once went to his birthday party and I also went with him and his friends to the Met earlier this year. I've never touched him or hugged him and I definitely have never kissed him (yuck, gross, disgusting).

The predicament I'm now in is whether to play up to his childish game. Do I start ignoring him too? Play his stupid game? He obviously doesn't want to talk to me in any way, so why make the effort? Should I stop greeting him on my way in and out of the office? Do I continue to greet the wall and get no response? Or, should I confront him and tell him he's behaving like a total jackass? Personally, I like to know exactly where I stand with someone, guessing games don't do it for me.  If he's mad, he should be man enough to tell me why.  For now, I think I'm just going to carry on being polite; being the grown up, even though I hate knowing someone is cross with me. 

Somewhere along the line, I obviously gave him the wrong impression and now I'm the bitch for falling in love with someone yummy. I guess it proves that you can't just be friends with a guy, unless you're related...

Sue X