At Jake's school today, they're celebrating Dad's Day. They're singing songs about dads and will be having a boerewors braai (BBQ'd SA sausages) together. And while he is taking 2 grandads, he's missing having a dad of his own.
Today's get-together at school is apparently not a celebration of Father's Day, which is on the 21st and they do apparently also have a Mom's Day later in the year sometime too, BUT still... Jake's gone to school today without his dad, while all the other kids will have theirs with them. He often speaks about his dad and loves hearing old stories from when we were young. While I know that he doesn't know the difference between having a dad and not having a dad, he knows that our family's different.
Anyway, I have made a big fuss out of him being able to take my dad with him to school for the morning and he has been excited about that. Also, last night I found out that my father-in-law was having the day off work today too, so he's gone with them as well. Despite all the mixed feelings, I know that Jake is a very lucky boy to be so loved and I constantly remind him of how special he is and of how many people love and care about him. I'm sure I feel all these things much more then he does, but just knowing that he's hurting even a tiny bit over this, breaks my heart. I know what a wonderful father Jacques was and I know that he adored Jake, he just wasn't given enough time to get to know the amazing kid we've got. And I know that Jacques will be with them this morning, life just doesn't seem fair to me today...
4 comments:
this post brought tears to my eyes, life is so not fair but it is great that you remind Jake all the time how loved he is and how special he is I think we feel so deeply for our kids that it hurts us more than it hurts sometimes. Hope that you are both ok today xxxx Nicci
This made me cry too. I think life can be really unfair and cruel sometimes. I really admire the way that you are raising Jake and the great job you are doing to make him feel so special and loved. It really is touching that both his grandfathers were able to go with him for dad's day, you have such a lovely family Sue.
We are thinking of you,
Mari, Bob and Bayden xxx
I'm glad that Jake has his two Grandfathers to share this day with. Schools are well intentioned, but I wish they thought a bit more about all the kids and all the ways families are stitched together.
Feeling your loss...
Sending you love and hugs from far away...
- Lee
Thanks for your comments! We are truly blessed with a wonderful family. Jake survived the day and has been an absolute star this weekend! What a lucky mommy I am!
Sue x
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